More Time for You
Have you ever given advice to someone you care deeply about and then you turn around and don’t follow your own advice? Yea, that is something that I am guilty of. We give our advice with the best intentions but seem to forget to apply it to our own lives.
Well here is one for you that I hope everyone will listen to and follow. Make more time for yourself! Yes, it’s that simple.
Now I can see many of you saying “Well, I don’t have time to make time for myself. I have X, Y, and Z to take care of and that needs to be done before I can even think about having some time for myself!”
Just stop right there.
YES. YOU. DO.
The hard truth is that if you don’t take care of yourself first, you are going to be poorly prepared to take care of anything else. When you don’t feel your best, you can’t give your best.
Inside each and every person is a tank. This tank fills up or empties out depending on what we do. As we do things through the day we deplete our tank. When we take care of ourselves, give ourselves that time to do things that we enjoy, take care of our bodies, and have fun, our tank fills up.
You cannot give if you don’t already have. There is no credit for this. You will run yourself ragged, despise life, and no one will want to be around you because you are a grump. No one wants that! Don’t go down that road!
No, this isn’t you being selfish. This is you taking care of yourself so you can take care of everything else you have on your plate and everyone else you take care of. This is important. This is for your mental health and sanity.
4 Steps to Make ‘Me Time’
1. Schedule it!
Yes, it sounds hokey and cliche, but do it. Write it down in your calendar or make a block of it in your phone. This is important, so don’t be late and don’t think you can move it. Remember, you can’t give if you don’t have, so you need to make sure that you have lots in the tank to give.
2. Keep the Appointment!
Make sure that you are helping yourself keep this appointment with yourself. Schedule the kids to be watched by someone else. Go to another location if that is needed. Give yourself the availability to be free in your ‘me time’. This also means, no scheduling something over your ‘me time’ appointment. Barring a complete emergency, you are keeping that appointment!
3. Do Something You Love
It is so important to make sure that while you are having your ‘me time’ that you are doing something you love. No cheating! That means no running errands while you are out just because you are out.
No No No!
During ‘me time” you are going to be as you-centered as a toddler. You are doing to eat what you want, go where you want, and do what you want. This time is all about you and filling up your tank.
This part won’t be as hard as you might think once you’re there. After you have spent some time filling your tank, you are going to want to do it more! This is as it should be. Enjoy your ‘me time’!
What Should I Do?
This is the best part… Anything you want!
What makes you super excited and giddy? What makes you feel all woman or all man?
Do you like to get a massage? Get your hair done? Go shopping? Go for a run? Meditate? Take a bath? Paint your nails? Work on your car? Cook some delicious food? Play video games? Sailing? Fishing? Sleeping? Your options are only limited by your imagination.
The only disclaimer I will say is that you still need to be realistic. No going on a shopping spree for thousands of dollars when your account won’t support that.
How Much Time Should I Give For ‘Me Time’?
Start small. I have found that it was super nerve racking for myself when I tried to give myself a huge chunk of time at first. I felt extremely guilty and selfish for doing it. I believe this is something that is best worked into gradually.
My optimal time starting was about 10-15 minutes. This gave me just enough time to relax and do a little something for myself. I prefer to meditate, and my meditations go from 5-45 minutes, depending on which one I decide to do.
So that’s it. I know that it can seem daunting at first to try to schedule a chunk of your day, no matter how small, just for yourself. You will more than likely feel guilty and selfish, but don’t. Please remember that this is you taking care of you so that you can take care of others. You need to come first or your ability to take care of others will diminish, and no one wants that.
I would love to hear how you find time for yourself and what you do. Please leave me a comment below to share. Thanks!
Suggested Resources & Reading
- The Art of Doing Nothing: Simple Ways To Make Time For Yourself
- How to Make More Time for Yourself, in 3 Simple Steps
- 10 WAYS TO MAKE MORE TIME FOR YOURSELF WHEN YOU’RE BUSY ADULTING
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