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Here you will find the nitty-gritty details of some daily stuff that we put up with, so tips and tricks we learn a long the way, as well as some technical and inspirational stuff. I feel we should warn you that some details do get graphic, so please keep that in mind as you read.
A little backstory so that you will hopefully understand where we are coming from and where we hope to go.
I got pregnant with my son in July 2018 after years of trying and having the fear of being sterile from a medical procedure I had done in 2004. My pregnancy was a ‘normal’ one, as far as I could tell, and didn’t have any big hiccups. I had morning sickness for all of 2 weeks, gained some weight, went to all of my prenatal checkups and did all the testing and medical stuff the Dr wanted. As I got close to the due date, I made up my birth plan; I wanted to go natural just like my Mother. Everything was going smoothly until I actually went into labor.
At my last checkup, one day before my due date, it was discovered that I was 100% effaced and 1 cm dilated. The Dr ushered me to the hospital; I was going to be having my baby! What followed was a long 3-day labor complete with discovering that from the aforementioned procedure in 2004, I had scar tissue on my cervix that was preventing me from dilating any further, even being on a heavy dose of pitocin. This led to the Dr having to ‘break’ the scar and being instantly at 5cm.
After being in labor for 52 hours, it was finally time to push. Since I had decided to get an epidural(no way was I going to have anyone break scar tissue inside me without anesthesia) I had only eaten 4 pieces of toast in the past 2 days and was exhausted. I pushed for an hour and a half before I told the Dr I could go no longer and we had to get this baby out or C-section it would have to be. With the help of some slippery forceps, my son was born at 2121 on April 6th.
Everything went according to plan after that. He was perfect; this tiny little bundle of joy that had the most serious face as he took the world in around him. I couldn’t have asked for anything more. All his checks came back good and we went home on time 36 hours later.
At his first week checkup, he was doing awesome! He was hitting all his milestones and seemed to be ahead in some areas. His Dr wanted him to come back in another week to check his weight as I was having some difficulties with breastfeeding. When we came back, the nurse happened to check his O2(oxygen) saturation and it was sitting at 72%. We were sent directly to the emergency room where they put him on oxygen to get him back into the 90% range. From there we were transferred to the children’s hospital.
Over the next day and a half many tests were done including blood work, pulmonary testing, and heart testing. It was discovered my son has Ebstein’s Anomaly. His heart didn’t form 100% correctly. My world suddenly stopped as the cardiologist explained to me that more than likely he would have to undergo heart surgery within the first 5 years of his life and this would be something he would always be affected by. I was devastated.
We came home with paperwork galore, oxygen tanks and monitors, instructions on what to do for what-ifs, what to watch for, and a sense of dread that nothing was ever going to be alright. As the weeks have gone by, we have grown accustomed to the monitor beeping constantly in the background and having to make accommodations for his portable O2. We have seen his condition gradually improve as well. As we move forward, we can only hope that he will continue to improve and grow past any hindrance he has.
As he has grown, we have seen a vast improvement with him. His cardiologist appointments are spaced farther and farther apart and he is progressing and growing just like any healthy little boy.
Why I Want to Write
The simple act of being a Mom is one of the most rewarding and difficult things I have ever done. I think most Moms would agree. We all have our own little trials that we go through with our LO, and sometimes it is easy and there are people who can offer advice and suggestions. Other times, not so much and you feel like you are setting off into unknown territory.
I want to write to help anyone who cares to read. I know what it’s like to be on both sides of the fence. It’s hard to be the Mom going through whatever you might be going through. It’s also hard being the friend watching a Mom go through stuff, unable to help and unsure how to support. This site is for all of you!
My goal is to help at least one person a day through advice, knowing you’re not alone, inspiration, or whatever else. Momming can be difficult, and I want to help.
If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.
All the best,
Angela & Lucius